Attempting progress in relationship #1

I talked to Mark about initiating contact between us. It seemed really important to talk about why we get in arguments about what time we are going to do something, and who is supposed to go where. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't.

I think the important thing for me is learning to not get resentful when people don't initiate, and choosing people in my life who DO initiate.

I mean, I already had that problem with my ex-husband. If I wanted someone passive, well... I don't want to be my best friend. She is what? Dominant? Controlling? She wants to have control of her life, I know that. She wants to make her own choices because she felt her mother was hemmed in. But she married Cos. Who is nice. Whom I like. Whom I could never live with because he's a completely passive packrat. DeAnna sent out his resume to get him his job. Wes wasn't that bad, but I did encourage him, and he tended to be the last rat off the sinking ship.

Now, for the first time I can remember, I'm talking to someone who actually thinks he may be too dominant, possessive, controlling. I don't know if it's true or not, but compared to what I knew before, I'm interested in finding out what it means.

It may be we are just well matched for a D/S relationship that may relieve both of our urges to bolt from our 'normal' lives. What's a normal life, anyway?