Body Image

[scyllacat]

36-25-36. And I still feel huge and lumbering, maybe because I look down and see my thighs first. Next to my fine-boned lovers, I think I am a horse. How does one correct this?

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[auliya.livejournal.com]

You have to have some 300 pound lovers. I'll volunteer, baby. ;)

[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

Wow. I've been flirted with by the indomitable Claire. Whee!

[morven.livejournal.com]

When I was thin, I had such a poor body image that I looked heavier to myself than I do now.

One thing I did to shake this out a little now and then was use odd mirror angles, such as looking in a little mirror, into a larger one in such a way I'd see myself upside down or at angles. Other ways you can do this are through photos where your head is not visible, (the association with yourself actually brings back the feelings of body image, so headless seems to be important. ) And, after a while your mental image adapts to these photos or reflections in such a way that they no longer work. If this works for you, you can't "trick" yourself with these forever, so you have to take new pictures or use different mirror angles.

Ain't the brain a crazy thing?

[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

Thank you for actually trying to answer the question... as opposed to the boys, who took it as a fish for compliments.

I like it if I can catch myself reflected a different way. I am always looking in mirrors, trying to trick myself into just seeing another person and not "myself." I find that security cameras work best right now. I see a relatively average girl, usually the back of her head. I'm still having a hard time seeing a middle-aged woman... which I'm much closer to than the girl I was...
... and at the same time, in shape and condition, I'm much 'younger' than the chubby sedentary teen I was.

Getting pants that fit would, I think, also help. Everything I have is a Little too tight or WAY too big. Pants have always been a conundrum for me.... back to the bladder issues. Anyone know where I could find comfortable skirts and garters?

P.S. Long time no see. Miss you. You should meet Puck, too. :)

[shalie.livejournal.com]

Hey, I'm finer boned and presently am 36-27-40. No matter how in shape I get, my hips will always be greater than 36. Plus isn't 36-25-36 literally considered the perfect measurements?

[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

You are a delicate flower and always will be. I manage to have a heavy lower bone structure and I'm only 5'3 1/2. I'm literally "undertall." :)

As to the "perfect measurements," I need to lose an inch off the waist. Wanna help with my corset training? But yeah, that's kind of my point. I can be "perfect" and still feel like a Clydesdale. I never knew I was like that, because I was always a "little heavy," so I figured losing weight would fix that... But it didn't. Leaving me wondering, where does this stuff come from?

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[shalie.livejournal.com]

Genetics!

I think you look amazing right now. Definitely don't look nor move anything like a Clydesdale.

And if your undertall what am I at 5' even? Smirk.

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[gnomen9.livejournal.com]

Your measurements sound fine to me, I just didn't realize how curvy you are.
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[asbrand.livejournal.com]

I'm sure you feel small next to some of us... ;-)

You look fine. Stop being girly...



-Az

[polychromatic22.livejournal.com]

I gotta go with the look at yourself thing. We have a full length mirror in the garage. Use it woman. I'm almost positive if you asked our roommate would be willing to take tons of headless photos of you. You're tiny, woman. I was just noticing as you sat the other day how defined and pretty your leg muscles were, and hell, I always notice how damn nice your torso looks. But that's *ME*, it's easy for me to look at you and notice you looking good, harder for you, I know.

I have a bit of the same trouble. I've lost over 10 dress sizes, way over a hundred pounds, am still seriously in the realm of fat, I know, but I have a hard time seeing the difference. There's a lot of difference. I don't see it. I can feel it, tactily It's totally noticeable, not so much visiably.

The brain is weird.