The risk of the Shadow

[scyllacat]

You advertise yourself with your obsession with sexual purity;
the only thing a woman is fit to withhold from you.
a woman's worth is based on her sexual purity because it is the only thing the man will accept as being something SHE should control rather than him.
If respecting my desire (if I desire it at all) that you not fuck me is all that is required, if it is the only necessary way of showing you care, then any other invasion is somehow less than wrong. There is nothing I should want to hide from you, especially if I have already given you my pussy.

Flip the coin: You never hit.
You won't physically abuse or hit women. You abhor men who do it.
But you don't even believe in other kinds of abuse, emotional, mental, if it means you might have to accept that you were responsible for hurting someone.
If not hitting me is how you know you don't abuse me, what right do I have to say anything else you do is painful?

This continuous distraction from what you DO to what you DON'T do to somehow justify yourself is one of the things that got on my nerves really fucking bad.

Comments

[pookah.livejournal.com]

The shadow is, by its nature, tough to pin down. It's not the opposite of existence, it's the absence. The opposite of strength is weakness, but its shadow is merely not strong. The opposite of honesty is lies; its shadow is simply untruthful ... unproven and unknown. Pointing out what is NOT only defines its shadow. In an example I think applies here, not BAD is simply that. Not bad. But also not necessarily good. That "wiggle-room" is often used to cover the half-truth, by nailing down nothing but semantics.

It's a dodge, a semantic tactic, and a tool for deception. True in word but not spirit.

Congrats on surviving the mental games. *hug* If you need an ear to bend ...

- Pookah