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Wow, I got such interesting responses from my posts yesterday (and I didn't expect them), that I thought I'd like to ask you to go a little further -- or for those of you who were wondering what I was up to (someone described the entry as 'provocative') I'm putting this in the form of questions you can answer, if you choose.
Who would you rather talk to about problems in dealing with others, strangers or friends? Why? How does it differ?
What do you think is the right thing to do in dealing with something that someone does that bothers you? Is that what you actually do? How does it work for you? (Either way)
Do you talk about situations with other people with third parties? Do you consider this gossip? How does it differ and when? What rules do you follow (if any) to prevent your words from harming others? Where did you get them from? (Church, parents, experience, your own judgment).
Why do you think people gossip? Why do you think they 'dramatize' their lives, by 'broadcasting' their experiences?
Extra credit: Come up with a set of rules that, if everyone followed them, gossip would not happen/ hurt people, people would get their problems solved with others and emotional needs would be met.
After some of you have posted, I'll join in with my ideas. I don't want to be too leading, since I already wrote the questions.
Who would you rather talk to about problems in dealing with others, strangers or friends? Why? How does it differ?
What do you think is the right thing to do in dealing with something that someone does that bothers you? Is that what you actually do? How does it work for you? (Either way)
Do you talk about situations with other people with third parties? Do you consider this gossip? How does it differ and when? What rules do you follow (if any) to prevent your words from harming others? Where did you get them from? (Church, parents, experience, your own judgment).
Why do you think people gossip? Why do you think they 'dramatize' their lives, by 'broadcasting' their experiences?
Extra credit: Come up with a set of rules that, if everyone followed them, gossip would not happen/ hurt people, people would get their problems solved with others and emotional needs would be met.
After some of you have posted, I'll join in with my ideas. I don't want to be too leading, since I already wrote the questions.
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Date: 2002-09-19 03:11 pm (UTC)There are degrees of irritation, and I let the little things slide. I don't expect to agree with my friends on everything. I know if someone has a problem with me, I'd like to be told first, rather than hear of it second or third-hand...or worse, hear nothing at all.
Discretion is a must. If I tell you about my problems with my roommate, that's one thing. If you were to pass that along, that would be gossip. My rule of thumb is, 'If it doesn't directly concern me, don't say a word.'
Strangely relevant. I will need to think more on this. 8=)