Here's the letter

[scyllacat]

Ok, you all win. I don't think he INTENDED to be an asshole.

I just don't believe that he's not BEING an asshole. Because to tell a flaming pagan that this is how God intended, then that's "You're doing it Wrong," to my way of looking at it.

As it turns out, that IS the only thing he said about it.

I think I'll write him back, as soon as I can keep from snarking.

So here it is:

You're right, not much in common at all except for the adoption part.

I've always known I'm adopted... I've never known any different. I believe that's the best way to approach adopted kids on it. I've always been told how special that made me by my parents and especially by my grandparents. I've never thought of it any other way and have never felt any less of a person than anyone else, nor has anyone ever treated me less as a result.

To be honest, I'm not sure how much of a role the genetics plays, except for looks, medical history and maybe some mannerisms, such has how one smiles etc. I do thank my biological mother for giving me up and giving me the life I have. Obviously she felt she could not do the same.

Other than that, I really think environmental factors such as your parents, and life experiences make up the bulk of your personality. I really believe kids deserve 2 loving parents (mom and dad the way God intended) and I believe a healthy Christian marriage is the best way to raise kids.

I was lucky enough to have both, and think that WAY outweighed the biological factors in my life on how I turned out.

I hope that helps in your quest for adoption feedback!

Comments

I semi-agree with one of his more outre points:

[teididh.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't say I think kids REQUIRE two loving parents, plenty of single parents raise awesome kids, but as far as deserve? Hell yeah. I think they "deserve" as many loving parents as they can get. Two is, in my mind, a minimum number deserved by the PARENTS, just 'cause doing it alone is that much harder.

Honestly, I think maybe everyone involved deserves maybe three or four loving parents around.More might be nice, too...but three or four spreads the load a bit better than the mere TWO all these Christians seem to think is so optimal. Poly-families FTW!

But somehow I doubt this response, or this form of agreement, would satisfy the Christian in Question.

Re: I semi-agree with one of his more outre points:

[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

I completely agree with you. Adopt me? ;)

Re: I semi-agree with one of his more outre points:

[teididh.livejournal.com]

...

well, that could get creepy fast...

Re: I semi-agree with one of his more outre points:

[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

LOL. Wow. No, I didn't think of it that way.... I'm not into age-play and you guys are too sexy to give up. :)