Here's the letter

[scyllacat]

Ok, you all win. I don't think he INTENDED to be an asshole.

I just don't believe that he's not BEING an asshole. Because to tell a flaming pagan that this is how God intended, then that's "You're doing it Wrong," to my way of looking at it.

As it turns out, that IS the only thing he said about it.

I think I'll write him back, as soon as I can keep from snarking.

So here it is:

You're right, not much in common at all except for the adoption part.

I've always known I'm adopted... I've never known any different. I believe that's the best way to approach adopted kids on it. I've always been told how special that made me by my parents and especially by my grandparents. I've never thought of it any other way and have never felt any less of a person than anyone else, nor has anyone ever treated me less as a result.

To be honest, I'm not sure how much of a role the genetics plays, except for looks, medical history and maybe some mannerisms, such has how one smiles etc. I do thank my biological mother for giving me up and giving me the life I have. Obviously she felt she could not do the same.

Other than that, I really think environmental factors such as your parents, and life experiences make up the bulk of your personality. I really believe kids deserve 2 loving parents (mom and dad the way God intended) and I believe a healthy Christian marriage is the best way to raise kids.

I was lucky enough to have both, and think that WAY outweighed the biological factors in my life on how I turned out.

I hope that helps in your quest for adoption feedback!

Comments

[teididh.livejournal.com]

Well it could just be that weird, annoying thing that so many Christians are trained to do where they bring up God or Jesus and their purported Will at EVERY available opportunity.

It doesn't matter if they're talking to another Christian about the most mundane of matters, they will be sure to mention that it was as God intended that they woke up that morning/ate oatmeal for breakfast/heard their team won the game last night/whatever...It's like "God" "Jesus" or assorted biblical name-dropping is the Word of the Day or something, and they get extra afterlife points for using a vocabulary word.

Seriously, it's like Pee Wee's Playhouse, except with fundies. Instead of:

"...hat."
"AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!"

it's:

"...Jesus....as God intended!"
"Amen/Ya got that right/Praise the Lord!"

/end offensive rantiness. (sorry, coffee overdose.)

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[scyllacat.livejournal.com]

That must be one of the new icons. Bwahahahaa! I love it.